To think that 2017 is coming to a close is really kind of mind-blowing to think about. Like most everyone else, I’ve been scrolling through Instagram looking at (and making my own) everyone’s sweet little sentimental story montages, and it got me to thinking about my New Year’s resolutions. I wanted to sit down and really put my heart and soul into these resolutions, as I have never really been serious or even given much thought to making changes to my life after the ball drops. But 2017 Stella is different, and has grown into somebody who does not want to stop growing. Like plenty of other things in my life, I thought what better way to bring in the New Year than to share it with the audience that has shown me what my true passion is in life.
- Pop more bottles (of Evian hahahahah I’m sorry. But for real, I need to drink more water.)
- Be more disciplined about spending time with Jesus everyday and really making it a point to seek God’s will in my life. None of this matters if God isn’t at the center of it.
- Spend more time outside (when it’s warmer, obviously)
- Journal! Journaling is such a great way to track personal growth.
- FILM MORE YOUTUBE VIDEOS! YES I KNOW, I’M INCONSISTENT, THAT’S GONNA BE FIXED IN 2018!
- Be more consistent in posting blog posts!
- Watch more movies
- Cook more
- ACTUALLY go to the gym. Getting there is the worst part, but once I’m in it’s actually not that bad.
- Combat anxiety and being pessimistic and look on the bright side, because there is always a bright side!
- Doodle more, paint more, draw more.
- Make more Spotify playlists.
- Spend more time with my family.
- Be intentional about spending time with people I don’t normally see on a daily basis.
- Be more intentional about friendships.
I’m keeping it short & sweet, and I’m so excited to keep up with these resolutions in 2018. This year has been a year full of so much growth, change, and development mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. I have closed a chapter completely on my life and opened a new one at the same time, and it has been the most incredible and trying experience. When I look back on this year, I think of the doors that were slammed shut, but then I think about the doors that flung right open. Some almost instantly, some required waiting and patience (probably the most important lesson that I learned this year), but nevertheless, I have been so blessed. I am so grateful for all of the people that have come into my life and remained; you all are such huge pieces of who I am and you make life so much brighter. I am so thankful and most of all, humbled, by all of the insane once-in-a-lifetime opportunities I have had this year. From hosting an event at Madewell to visiting the Mogul offices in Hearst Tower (an actual dream come true), to interning with College Fashionista and moving up in the program, all of these opportunities have reminded me that nothing worth having comes except through my God, who is so faithful, and from working your actual butt off.
My prayer is that you all have an amazing 2018: one full of triumph, motivation, inspiration, & growth.
Thank you all.
Happy New Year.
Happy Thanksgiving, readers!
This is my third holiday season with this blog, and sharing my life with you, and for THAT I am thankful. Today is a day that is commonly associated with turkey, stuffing, and football, and trust me, I’m not mad about any of those things, but I am a firm believer in taking a moment to step back and acknowledge how many things that we have been blessed with in this life. In this season of my life, I have been focusing on #PositivitySeeking, and filling my heart and mind with things that are uplifting rather than things that worsen anxiety or cause unnecessary feelings of negativity. This life is far too short and far to rare to be spent worrying. So, in celebration of this Thanksgiving and to continue seeking positivity, I am going to share 100 things on my heart that I am thankful for, and I encourage you to do the same!
- First and foremost, I am thankful for everything that the Lord has done in my life. When I think about everything that I have encountered in my life, every trial, every high, every low, there is no way to deny the existence of an amazing, loving God.
- I am thankful for my family. My mom, who has denied herself a thousand times to put myself and my sisters first; my sisters, who have been by my side no matter what. I am thankful for my girl gang that I get to call my family, and the unwavering support that they have shown me.
- I am thankful for my friends, my very best friend in the whole world, Gillian, and for all the support and laughter that she brings me. Gil, you’re my twisted sister for life, my funky thrifting partner, and I am so thankful that God gave me a fourth sister! And to everyone that I have become close with in this season in my life, I am so grateful for the impact that each and every one of you have had on my heart.
- I am thankful for my silly roommate, and the fun and liveliness that she brings to our little room! Bails, you are literally the best ever and I am so happy that I get to live with you!
- I am thankful for my school, and the opportunity that I have to get an education in something that I am extremely passionate about.
- I am thankful for coming home over Thanksgiving break and being able to curl up on the couch on a weekday morning and watch The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
- I am thankful for my mushy little cat, Perry, whom many of you have without a doubt seen on my Instagram stories.
- I am thankful for creativity and being able to express myself through different mediums, and the community that creativity builds.
- I am thankful for thrift shopping. Are you kidding me? Heck yeah, I am thankful for thrift shopping. I have found some of my most treasured pieces while thrifting.
- I am thankful for reality television. It may be insanely staged, but hot dang, it is so nice to come home at the end of the day and veg out with my sisters with some Bravo.
- I am thankful for this stage of my life and how much I have been able to grow, learn, and work towards becoming the best version of myself.
- I am thankful for the next stage of my life, and the next, and the next.
- I am thankful for the smell of cooking a bangin’ Thanksgiving meal, and the atmosphere that Thanksgiving brings.
- I am thankful for late nights at college with my friends, and endless laughter.
- I am thankful for pulling a Grey’s Anatomy and “dancing it out” in a messy dorm room to relieve stress.
- I am thankful for all of the opportunities that I have been given, most recently with Mogul and College Fashionista. It is a major blessing and honor to be able to partner with such incredible companies.
- I am thankful for my health and my family’s health.
- I am thankful for having Christmas decorations up early!
- I am thankful for trips to the Humane Society, and being able to go play with some kittens and puppies in our free time.
- I am thankful for makeup, and for how much fun it is to be able to express myself through makeup.
- I am thankful for days when I get to sit in my pajamas all day and relax.
- I am thankful for busy days when I feel productive and I am able to get loads of things done (homework, homework, and more homework).
- I am thankful for forgiveness.
- I am thankful for everyone that I have not met yet, and for the impact that they will have on my life and in my heart.
- I am thankful for my future family, and for the fun that we will have together.
- I am thankful for inspiration and the sources I get inspiration from.
- I am HECKA thankful for music!
- I am thankful for technology and the resources that we have today (especially as a blogger).
- I am thankful for second chances.
- I am thankful for EPIC chances! Take epic chances, people. You never know what could come of it.
- I am thankful for playing it safe, and taking risks.
- I am thankful for blonde hair (hehe).
- I am thankful for HIGH WAISTED PANTS!
- I am thankful for travel, and for all of the beautiful places there are to go on this earth.
- I am thankful for making mistakes and learning from them.
- I am thankful for being at a horrible creativity block, and then having a huge “Eureka!” moment.
- I am thankful for rainy days and thunderstorms (as long as the power doesn’t go out, but sometimes that can also be a blessing in disguise).
- I am thankful for sunshine and the warmth that the sun rays give off.
- I am thankful for BABIES! There is nothing better than getting to hold a tiny human.
- I am thankful for sneakers.
- I am thankful for weddings. Everyone loves weddings.
- I am thankful for Netflix binge-watching.
- I am thankful for Chipotle.
- I am thankful for Chinese take-out.
- I am thankful for airports and the hustle and bustle and excitement that flows through them.
- I am thankful for New York City, my birthplace, future home, and forever my favorite place to be.
- I am thankful for my passion for the fashion industry, social media marketing and studies, and for the path that is being paved for my career.
- I am thankful for people who are willing to invest in me. Whether it be in life, or my career, I couldn’t do any of it alone.
- I am thankful for fuzzy blankets and sweatpants.
- I am thankful for the gift that is macaroni & cheese.
- I am thankful for candles.
- I am thankful for how pretty Fall is and the changing of the leaves.
- I am thankful for people who are willing to take blog pictures for me. Sometimes it’s a real pain, but I appreciate it so much.
- I am thankful for companies and brands who are willing to collaborate with me. There is power in numbers, teams, and networking and it is always an honor to be considered!
- I am thankful for #FPWriteThisDown (peep my twitter feed).
- I am thankful for extra long phone chargers.
- I am thankful for brownies.
- I am thankful for Instagram stories.
- I am thankful for the ability to communicate with someone from the opposite side of the Earth in real time.
- I am thankful for learning from my own mistakes and successes.
- I am thankful for warm showers.
- I am thankful for pedicures.
- I am thankful for The Late Late Show with James Corden.
- I am thankful for YouTube makeup tutorials.
- I am thankful for my camera (I swear I’ll make more YouTube videos! Pinky promise!).
- I am thankful for living in a place that experiences all four seasons.
- I am thankful for the beach.
- I am thankful for off-roading in the mountains.
- I am thankful for Saturday mornings downtown with my mom exploring beautiful little local shops and eating crepes for breakfast.
- I am thankful for late nights in the library that just turn into goofing off instead of doing homework.
- I am thankful for grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup.
- I am thankful for Chick-Fil-A.
- I am thankful for wifi.
- I am thankful for my dog, Louisa. She’s not very nice, but she has her moments.
- I am thankful for the way the air smells after it rains.
- I am thankful for the way the light hits glass sometimes and makes a rainbow.
- I am thankful for rainbows in general.
- I am thankful for microwaves.
- I am thankful for road trips.
- I am thankful for spontaneous road trips with friends to New York City.
- I am thankful for happy accidents.
- I am thankful for fireplaces.
- I am thankful for bonfires and s’mores.
- I am thankful for friends who let you borrow their clothes and who borrow your clothes.
- I am thankful for drives all by yourself and screaming to your favorite songs.
- I am thankful for going somewhere that you’ve never been before and finding your new favorite spot.
- I am thankful for blazers.
- I am thankful for people who stop to let you pet their dog.
- I am thankful for Pinterest.
- I am thankful for splurging on a pair of shoes that you’ve wanted for forever.
- I am thankful for people who keep their promises.
- I am thankful for Wendy’s chocolate frosties and french fries. Together. Like, you dip the fries in the frosty.
- I am thankful for Spotify.
- I am thankful for people who aren’t actually your family but are your family at the same time.
- I am thankful for knowledge, and how one can never have enough.
- I am thankful for healthy competition.
- I am thankful for everything that I have learned in my life thus far.
- I am thankful for everything that I will learn in my life from this moment forward.
- I am thankful for The Stella Files.
- I am thankful for my readers. For every person that has ever told me that they liked something that I wrote, that they liked an outfit that I posted, that one of my “Real Talk” posts really hit home for them and made them feel less alone. For every single person who has ever clicked on the link in my Instagram bio, for every single person who has ever told another person about my blog, I am so beyond thankful. Thank you.
Today I was sitting in my first class of the day…
It’s a communications class (an elective for my Business Marketing major) and my professor was basically breaking down the class and getting rid of any anxieties we might have. The class is focused on media and culture, and as we were discussing how media truly influences us and how we appear on social media, my professor said something that I think we all seem to forget in this day and age. My professor said
“It’s okay to be unqualified. You can’t do everything, God gifted you with certain things, and we all have certain strengths and weaknesses. You don’t have to know it all. You’re allowed to be unqualified.”
As a blogger and a passionate advocate for social media business, I more often than not feel like I have to overcompensate for my weaknesses; where I lack in certain skills and areas. This field is an extremely visual field and is heavily centered around networking. To network is to display your qualifications and, really, sell yourself to the audience. The deeper you dig into blogging and the more growth your social media platform gets, the easier it is to feel like you’re juggling. Juggling your image, your social media following, blog analytics, outreach, collaborations, pressure to be “yourself”, but also to be socially accepted and relatable. Today I was reminded that it’s okay to not do everything. It’s more important to step back and look at your qualifications, your skills, what you’re good at, and build upon those and use those unique strengths to reach someone that maybe has been searching to connect with a blog just like yours.
So, bloggers, fellow creatives, influencers, there is no need to size up. Let’s all just be real for a second and acknowledge that it’s okay that you can’t do it all. What you can do, though, be great at it and master your craft. What you can’t do, observe others and learn from it, or collaborate with others and build on your combined skills. Today’s class was refreshing, eye opening, and real. I freaking love college.